In a world brimming with shoulds and shouldn’ts, it’s time to break free and unleash the WayMaker within you.
Step out of comfort onto a path of self-discovery, shedding the weight of imposed limits.
Forge genuine bonds to craft your narrative and redefine the impossible.
The legacy you envision starts here.
We dream; often, deeply, and surreally. But why? Because life could be so much more interesting, or thrilling, or fun if only we had __________.
(Did you insert your bull**** excuse for not having what you need to achieve your dreams?)
Fight For Yourself
Donβt blame yourself. Blame other people. Thatβs mainstream thought. Mainstream thought tells us what we should need, do, or buy or what we should not need, not do, or not buy. How many things, ideas, or lifestyles have you been presented with today that differ from what you desire? How different are you right now from who you want to be, or how you want to present yourself? Do you even have a vision for yourself? Most of us donβt because, consciously or subconsciously, weβre told who we are. Formally, our job titles define us and shape the little box we operate in, and informally, passively learned societal roles can dictate behaviors and skills for us.
We live confined by imposed limitations. Itβs likely that these limitations start as benign suggestions (through media, communities, workplaces, and organizations) but are fortified by us as barriers to our progression, success, or contentment1. Take your career, for example. What certifications are required to advance? What do they cost? Are you satisfied in your role, given what you need to advance?
Now consider your role as a mother or father, boyfriend or girlfriend, or athlete, or cook, or driver, or whatever youβd like to be better at. When you think about how to improve in this role, what does it cost – in terms of time, energy, etcetera? Contextualize βcostβ to your specific need or desire.
And now youβre dreaming again β this time of what you could be. What you will be. Think about this – of the resources you just determined, how many have been presented to you today? How many are you capable of receiving or completing? Why? What we need can start small, if we let it. No one needs to become Braveheart, leading underdogs into a ceremonial and literal battle for freedom, or Shughart and Gordon (name that movie?), giving up everything to deliver a man into freedom, but this doesnβt mean we aren’t fighting the same war within us1.
Commit To Yourself, Not Against Yourself
We hold onto wounds from previous battles (experiences and relationships β with friends, with employers, with organizations) that tell us we arenβt liked, donβt have what it takes, arenβt good enough, or donβt belong1. Then we negotiate with ourselves to believe these lies (insert your bull**** excuse from earlier) and impose limitations on ourselves for whom we are allowed to be or what we are permitted to achieve, restricting our freedom to do or be as we please. Because itβs easier. Itβs safer. Itβs what is expected of us β itβs what we should need, do, or buy. Finding freedom is crucial to embracing our identities and authority over our own lives. Unleash yourself; find who you are, decide how you want to become more, then do it.
This is far easier said than done, but figuring out the lies youβve negotiated with yourself is the first step. From there, you can let them go and start on your warpath; become a WayMaker.
As a WayMaker, take risks, pursue passions, and step out of your comfort zone. Stretching yourself will yield personal growth and a deeper understanding of who you are; become intimately familiar with your mettle, resilience, and fortitude2. Know how hard you can push yourself, and more importantly, when youβre going to need support and who will offer what you need. Knowing for yourself is critical. Donβt let mainstream thought tell you anymore.
Think For Yourself
But arenβt I telling you what to do? So, shouldnβt you blow off what Iβm saying? Hardly. Iβm telling you to figure out what to think. Frankly, I donβt care what it is. The decision itself matters far less than how you arrive at it. If your decision is to follow social media influencers to lead a life youβve seen modeled and believe will deliver the satisfaction youβre pursuing, great. Commit to it and be excellent at it. If your decision is to delete your social media to force thinking for yourself to find your own path, commit to that and be excellent at that. However you choose to move forward, ensure it is what you want simply because you want it. Itβs fine to mirror things youβve seen or experiences youβve shared β they could be answers to lifeβs questions; Iβm only suggesting you do it because it makes you happy and offers you more of what you want out of life. This is transformative thought2. This is being a WayMaker. This is unlocking your true potential.
Forge Ahead
Along the way, look for healthy and authentic relationships to support your technical, emotional, and spiritual growth. Align yourself with people on similar journeys β share in each otherβs lives, uplift and encourage each other, and challenge each other to break through perceived limitations. Hold each other accountable through a shared love of what you do, and genuine care for those on a similar path. Find a community that wants what you want β excellence, growth, talent, support, and ideas – and help develop it by offering vulnerability, sharing stories and experiences, and sharing passion about what youβre pursuing. You will create a positive feedback loop where the effort and dedication you put out is returned to you; we are capable of more in a combined effort than if we all tried on our own, and reciprocity is how relationships thrive2. Do life with them, not above them, or to impress them β keep that stuff for yourself; youβll impress yourself by what you can accomplish surrounded by like-minded people, and youβll never cease to impress yourself if you forgive the negotiations you settled on and determine your own path instead of what is dictated to you. Suddenly, youβll find contentment. Then, youβll find that being content opens the door to exponential growth opportunities because youβre no longer bound by false limitations, false imprisonment of your curiosity, or ambition.
Embrace Self-Discovery
Start the journey. Confront challenges. Become WayMakers. We want all of this for you and Iβm here to help put it into words. Letβs start a conversation about a journey to self-discovery, growth, and development. Letβs embrace our desires together, confront challenges, and become WayMakers for ourselves. Itβs going to be difficult, but think about it as working out β strength is gained when your muscles are tired, not when theyβre fresh, so let’s use them! When you feel rested and fresh, you see your new performance heights, so taking a break is necessary, slowing down to reflect and assess; but the better you get at harder decisions (using those muscles), the easier life will become (seeing new performance heights)3. In the end, life is about the legacy you will leave. If you live intentionally, with relentless determination, what is the positive impact youβll have on your family, community, and world? Letβs find out together.
Do you want to learn more? Check out:
The Book: Be Relentless: If the obstacle is the way, then we must be WayMakers.
The Podcast: βBe Relentless Podcastβ!
The Fuel: Sisu Stamina, Performance Evolved
- Eldredge, J. (2002). Wild at heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul. T. Nelson Publishers.
- Johnson, D.W. & Johnson, D. P. (2013). Joining Together, Group Theory and Group Skills. (11th ed.). Upper Saddle River, NJ: Pearson Education, Inc. ISBN#: 978-0132678131
- Mayo, J. (2023). Be Relentless: If the Obstacle Is the Way, Then We Must Be WayMakers. Forge Publications, LLC.
- Snyder, M. (2020). Becoming a King: The Path to Restoring the Heart of a Man. Thomas Nelson.